the most important thing for me in my work is to create and hold a space where a person can meet their nature. for me doulship, just like art, is an action towards a deeply ecological world, where there is a place for everyone and everything. I often rely on somatics and authentic movement in my practice, as i believe that these are the safest, most effective and beautiful ways to live in honest and deep chime with ourselves.
"its like being in nature with someone you trust. where every feeling or sensation makes sense just the way it is. and then its passing away.. or not, and its perfectly ok. even if its in the dense forest or in the middle of nowhere. connection is a catalyst"
doula is like a good friend we don't have sometimes. grounded enough for such charged topics and skilled to contain, open-hearted and educated in topics of death & grief (yet non judging). grieving is a natural process and death/loss is a part of life (just like birthgiving or love) and the work to be done is for the person going through it – there is no magic pill or surgeon for that. but when someone is witnessing, holding space, empathizing, mirroring and helps to research this space of a loss ("holding a flashlight in the dark") – it activates the natural ability to heal ourselves and the wisdom bodymind has about how to do that.
what is end-of-life doula? (international end-of-life doula association)
когда человеческое в тебе встречается с человеческим во мне (deathfoundation)
"its like being in nature with someone you trust. where every feeling or sensation makes sense just the way it is. and then its passing away.. or not, and its perfectly ok. even if its in the dense forest or in the middle of nowhere. connection is a catalyst"
doula is like a good friend we don't have sometimes. grounded enough for such charged topics and skilled to contain, open-hearted and educated in topics of death & grief (yet non judging). grieving is a natural process and death/loss is a part of life (just like birthgiving or love) and the work to be done is for the person going through it – there is no magic pill or surgeon for that. but when someone is witnessing, holding space, empathizing, mirroring and helps to research this space of a loss ("holding a flashlight in the dark") – it activates the natural ability to heal ourselves and the wisdom bodymind has about how to do that.
what is end-of-life doula? (international end-of-life doula association)
когда человеческое в тебе встречается с человеческим во мне (deathfoundation)
background
¬ studied psychology at spbu (2012-2015, peak experience and death existential-narrative study, in-depth interview method; eye tracking & insight tasks solving)
¬ presented methods of research (existential narrative analysis for topics of "perfect moments" and death, unstructured in-depth interview, methods for analyzing metaphors of one's own death)
¬ by december 2023 have over 600 hours of personal psychotherapy (lacanian psychoanalysis)
¬ worked in female reproductive health research as an interviewer (2014-2015), on the crisis helpline (2012-2013), worked with orphans (away camp 21 day shifts) (2010-2011), with teenagers to raise awareness about HIV (2007-2010)
¬ wrote two studies at school: on anxiety in orphans and on comparison of world religions (2011-2012)
¬ co-organized schools based on philosophy (solving paradoxical problems) and theater practices for adults and teenagers (2015-2016)
¬ working with people in metamorphosis (search, crisis, loss, grieving) in my photopractice (2015-present moment)
¬ practicing embodiment for 10+ years: authentic movement, gaga movement language, vipassana meditation, contact improvisation, dragon dreaming, processwork etc.
¬ completed the course by deathfoundation (40 hours of practice) in the language of authentic relating (2023)
¬ studied psychology at spbu (2012-2015, peak experience and death existential-narrative study, in-depth interview method; eye tracking & insight tasks solving)
¬ presented methods of research (existential narrative analysis for topics of "perfect moments" and death, unstructured in-depth interview, methods for analyzing metaphors of one's own death)
¬ by december 2023 have over 600 hours of personal psychotherapy (lacanian psychoanalysis)
¬ worked in female reproductive health research as an interviewer (2014-2015), on the crisis helpline (2012-2013), worked with orphans (away camp 21 day shifts) (2010-2011), with teenagers to raise awareness about HIV (2007-2010)
¬ wrote two studies at school: on anxiety in orphans and on comparison of world religions (2011-2012)
¬ co-organized schools based on philosophy (solving paradoxical problems) and theater practices for adults and teenagers (2015-2016)
¬ working with people in metamorphosis (search, crisis, loss, grieving) in my photopractice (2015-present moment)
¬ practicing embodiment for 10+ years: authentic movement, gaga movement language, vipassana meditation, contact improvisation, dragon dreaming, processwork etc.
¬ completed the course by deathfoundation (40 hours of practice) in the language of authentic relating (2023)
terms & ethics
¬ $35 (zoom, one hour approx)
¬ booking a session takes place on an advance payment
¬ russian or basic english language
¬ confidentiality guaranteed
¬ no to any kind of discrimination
¬ i do not support war and can't work with anyone who does
¬ i wont be able to work with you if we have a current close friendship or romantic relationship
¬ i work on a mutual basis agreement
¬ you can stop anytime
¬ booking a session takes place on an advance payment
¬ russian or basic english language
¬ confidentiality guaranteed
¬ no to any kind of discrimination
¬ i do not support war and can't work with anyone who does
¬ i wont be able to work with you if we have a current close friendship or romantic relationship
¬ i work on a mutual basis agreement
¬ you can stop anytime
methodology & competencies
¬ trauma awareness
¬ deep active listening (non-judgmental space, welcome everything)
¬ sincere curiosity (open questions, intuition, quality research skills)
¬ no agenda (no intention to fix, lead to some result or choice)
¬ ability to hold space in situations of uncertainty and high intensity
¬ checking assumptions (the client is an expert in his experience)
¬ deep active listening (non-judgmental space, welcome everything)
¬ sincere curiosity (open questions, intuition, quality research skills)
¬ no agenda (no intention to fix, lead to some result or choice)
¬ ability to hold space in situations of uncertainty and high intensity
¬ checking assumptions (the client is an expert in his experience)
requests
¬ exploring relationship with death
¬ reliving transitions (job change, divorce, moving, having children) of any date
¬ vigil plan, death map (exploring and finding authentic path at the end of life)
¬ heritage project
¬ constructing rituals
¬ support of existing spiritual practice
¬ fear of death
¬ losing a loved one
¬ perinatal losses (abortion, miscarriage, frozen pregnancy, stillbirth, failed IVF, infertility)
¬ loss of a pet
¬ first period
¬ marriage (loss of single life and a certain degree of freedom)
¬ birthgiving (loss of childless life)
¬ relocation / immigration
¬ change of faith
¬ job loss
¬ loss of meanings and images of the future
¬ loss of limbs and organs
¬ loss of identity
¬ reliving transitions (job change, divorce, moving, having children) of any date
¬ vigil plan, death map (exploring and finding authentic path at the end of life)
¬ heritage project
¬ constructing rituals
¬ support of existing spiritual practice
¬ fear of death
¬ losing a loved one
¬ perinatal losses (abortion, miscarriage, frozen pregnancy, stillbirth, failed IVF, infertility)
¬ loss of a pet
¬ first period
¬ marriage (loss of single life and a certain degree of freedom)
¬ birthgiving (loss of childless life)
¬ relocation / immigration
¬ change of faith
¬ job loss
¬ loss of meanings and images of the future
¬ loss of limbs and organs
¬ loss of identity
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tg @pehlaagyaa
garbbha@gmail.com
garbbha@gmail.com
